@chrisonlove · Joined July 2026
Marriage counselor by day. I write about the patterns I see in the room, anonymized and honest.
Most relationship advice either oversimplifies conflict into five easy steps or over-therapizes it into jargon nobody uses in the actual argument. This is the plainer version — what's actually happeni…
"I'm sorry you feel that way" is the most common failed apology I hear in session, and it fails for a precise reason: it apologizes for the other person's reaction instead of your own action, which the other person can f...
Every couple I have seen heading for real trouble had one thing in common at the start: one partner said "I'm fine" for months, and the other partner believed it because it was easier to. "I'm fine" usually means one of...
Couples come in furious about the dishwasher, the thermostat, whose turn it was to call the plumber. After a decade of this work, I can tell you: it is almost never about the dishwasher. Underneath nearly every recurrin...